Saturday, September 22, 2012

Gay Bondage Porn 101 (re-post)




I have a disc full of downloaded videos from a site called Bound Gods that an acquaintance kindly provided me, since I couldn't quite wrap my head around actually signing up for a paid account to a bondage porn site.  But I've been intrigued by this site since another writer referred to it in a story she wrote.


The videos are all rather long, requiring a time commitment that is difficult for me to attain, since I don't have much alone-time here in the house.  But I'm diligently making my way through them and, I have to say, they're pretty fascinating.  A couple of them are a bit disturbing to me but I understand where the fantasies come from - they're just not my cup of tea.  Many of them are just great and right up my alley (strange choice of words).  I love the interviews before and after - they make it very clear that what is portrayed is a fantasy and that all actors have consented to being bound etc. and have a safeword they can use if things get overwhelming.  Some of the comments made by the actors during the interviews are hilarious.  One young man, referring to certain skills he has refined over the years, suggested that the practice should be an official olympic event.  That made me laugh out loud.


I now have my favourite videos and am quickly developing a preference for certain actors.  Some of the videos are silly, the acting isn't particularly Oscar worthy, but the men are generally very attractive and generously endowed, so I can overlook the acting problems.  Sometimes I'll watch with the sound turned low if the acting is really atrocious.


I find it fascinating and very arousing to watch these men play with each other in such an intimate way.  Sometimes things get a bit rough for me, so I'll fast forward through those parts, realizing that men are tough and that everything is consensual.  I guess what fascinates me is the way these gay men know each others' bodies so well, and can manipulate and elicit such intense responses from each other.  Even acts that some people find distasteful are performed with such care and thoughtfulness (even though used in the scene/fantasy as a form of 'punishment' or 'torture') that it seems like a kind of intricate dance, requiring much concentration and good timing.


My written bondage scenarios will probably always be less rough and raw than these scenes.  I have a woman's sensibilities, wanting to plainly show that my characters are actually enjoying what is going on, even if it is meant as 'punishment'.   But it has been eye-opening and very enjoyable to have a look at real gay bondage videos and take away what I can from them to inform my written work and make it as believable as I can.


~ Liz